17 Oct Family Time
I love getting to spend time with my family. Being a Dad is filled with lots of challenges – both logistical and emotional. The most difficult challenge is how tired I feel sometimes. After a day of shows I’ll be sitting on the floor with Teddy and I’ll have to remind myself, “Talk more! Interact with Teddy more! Don’t just watch him play! Get in there!” On the one hand I feel so prepared to be a parent with my graduate work and all the books I have read on autism and early childhood development. The challenge is that in real life parenting presents all kinds of twists and turns that you never could have prepared for i.e. waking up at 5:30/6:00 A.M. on the weekend and being fully present to make sure your child is safe and having fun while you feel tired out of your mind!
I’ve been taking Teddy to the playground as a way to stay awake and active after a day of shows when I come home tired. But the biggest challenge is the lack of “me time” and time that I can focus on being with my wife, Maggie. Today is our anniversary and we actually both forgot that it was our wedding anniversary. I spearheaded posting some of these photos online from a family photo shoot that we did together last Spring. I also subconsciously bought my wife a tiny cactus last night as a surprise (isn’t the subconscious amazing?). Today we are challenging each other to buy the funniest gift for each other for under $5 that potentially our dog can chew up.
I like making my wife and son laugh. But I am realizing that I need to find ways to make myself laugh, too. All three of us need to laugh together. How can I help other people like my family if I cannot help myself?